T. Berry Brazelton, M.D., emeritus professor of pediatrics at Harvard Medical School and founder of the Brazelton Touchpoints Center, told a packed room of educators on April 9 to embrace the developmental changes that young children go through, even if those changes bring turmoil.

Brazelton’s talk, “Touchpoints and the Critical Importance of the Early Years: Investing in Infants, Young Children AND Their Parents,” opened the two-day Young Child Expo & Conference at the New York Hilton. The expo, now in its seventh year, is co-sponsored by Fordham’s Graduate School of Education and Los Ninos Services.

Before he spoke, Brazelton received Fordham’s Excellence in Early Childhood Award from Stephen M. Freedman, Ph.D., senior vice president/chief academic officer at Fordham. Freedman praised him as an extraordinary advocate for young children and parents.

In his remarks, Brazelton estimated he has seen 25,000 patients in his 92 years. Parenting has gotten more difficult since he started, and he noted that the United States is hands down the least-friendly country for raising children. Touchpoints were borne of the frustrations that he’s heard from parents.

He cited 12 stressors that parents face, including changes in family structures, changing roles for women, diminishing family rituals and increased feelings of isolation. Changing roles for women, in particular, has brought some unexpected stresses.

“I began to realize that a few years ago, when I would ask, ‘How do you plan to feed your baby?’ Fifty percent of mothers would say, ‘Bottle.’ I’d ask why, and they would say, ‘I can’t stand to get that baby so close, because I know I’m going to have to go back to work so early and leave that baby with somebody else.’”

When it comes to embracing developmental changes that children go through in spurts, Brazelton advocated switching from a deficit model that emphasizes linear development and is prescriptive, to a positive model that embraces multidimensional development and is collaborative.

Above all, he said, parents learn best how to be parents by doing, not by instructions.

“One of most important things I’ve told parents is, ‘Don’t worry about your mistakes,’” he said. “You learn more from your mistakes than you ever learned from your successes. So, look forward to a mistake, and you’ll learn from it.”

Touchpoints, he explained, are times when the child is just about to earn something new. The first one, for instance, can be measured right after birth, when a newborn will tilt its head in the direction of its mother or father’s voice.

“Development goes in bursts and then it levels off, then another burst, and then it levels off, and just before each burst, the baby falls apart, the parent falls apart with them, and the baby becomes irritable and won’t sleep or won’t eat,” he said. “If we can predict these, and give parents a feeling that they know what’s coming then they begin to feel like, ‘I know what I’m doing.’ It begins to be a very powerful way of predicting when each of these things is happening.

Stephen M. Freedman, Ph.D., senior vice president/chief academic officer at Fordham and T. Berry Brazelton, M.D.
Photo by Ryan Brenizer

Jane Singer, Ph.D., assistant professor if pediatrics and psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and a faculty member at the Brazelton Touchpoints Center, expanded on Brazleton’s point by giving the example of a child, who at nine months, had figured out how to get across a room to retrieve a ball.

“They’re all excited, thinking, ‘I did it!’ Dr. B often talks about how, at nine months old, we can actually tell if a baby expects to be successful,” she said.

“It tells us that they have the drive to master, and it also tells us about their external drive system. What do we all do when a baby takes her first step? We celebrate. What if she is practicing that new skill in the middle of the night? No, we’re not celebrating. But from the baby’s perspective, she has a central nervous system that’s telling her to practice. She goes through a developmental touchpoint where she’s about to come up with an exciting new skill.

“We can predict when these periods will occur in the first few years of life, when the child is at risk for their behavior disorganizing, and the parent is at risk for their behavior disorganizing.”


Patrick Verel is a news producer for Fordham Now. He can be reached at [email protected] or (212) 636-7790.